Sitting Properly in Social Settings

In this video I discuss sitting properly in social settings.   You’ll see the proper way to address your sitting, how to sit, and how to get up from the chair. If you don’t presently have a more graceful sitting style, you can acquire one. It may take several weeks or months to get the poise needed to sit properly but you can do it. Practice makes perfect. Begin by “stopping everything” until you begin to rid yourself of your old habits. Read up on the Alexander technique. Secondly, lengthen the spine, free the neck, and balance the head above the shoulders. Remove the arch at the small of the back. Use your legs to walk and not your pelvis or the small of the back. Loosen your lower jaw. It may take a while to gain a guy’s grace and poise or if you’re a woman, a woman’s grace and poise but in time, if you really want it, you can change for the better. Notice that I said nothing about sitting properly. It takes a graceful overall movement before acquiring the grace and poise of sitting properly.

After gaining a graceful way of moving about, learn the art of sitting properly. Begin by observing the chair you are about to sit in. Make sure that the chair is clean. Then before sitting properly, step as close the the front of the chair as you can. Turn, gracefully, and before you sit, look up, just a little. This aligns the back and prepares your body to sit. Make sure when you sit that your back is as close to the back of the chair as possible. Sitting properly is best performed when you sit on your sitting bones. Don’t slouch. Keep your heels as close to the front of the chair as is reasonably possible. Do not cross your legs. Have poise when sitting properly at a social setting. Keep your head balanced atop your spine and turn your head when desired, at the top of your spine. This is a good beginning. Follow these tips and you’ll be sitting properly in any social setting.